The Biggest Thing We Would Change About Our Wedding

We’re coming up on our fourth wedding anniversary in a less than two months, and we get questions all the time about our big day. Did we go big or small? Where was the location? How many people came? The truth is, we wouldn’t change a thing about our wedding, except for one major thing.

What we wore. Weird, right? Most of the time you almost have to go out of your way to get that wrong on a wedding day. You put on a tux, tuck in your shirt, and slap on a nice tie. Boom. Done. But we did things a little differently and, looking back, we wish we hadn’t.

“We always joke that we priced what a big wedding would cost and what a new kitchen would cost, and we thought about it for maybe 10 seconds. We went with the new kitchen.”

The gist is that our wedding was small. It was intimate and we only had about 10 or so people there. Our older sisters couldn’t make it (they live in different states and have lots of kids ;) so we FaceTimed them during the short ceremony so that everyone could be there. We got married in the living room of the house we were fixing up and about to move in to. A Frank Sinatra playlist was playing in the background as we said “I do” while our friends and family took pictures on their phones. After the ceremony, we walked to a local diner and we all had lunch. Nothing fancy, nothing big, just us and the people we love. We always joke that we priced what a big wedding would cost and what a new kitchen would cost, and we thought about it for maybe 10 seconds. We went with the new kitchen.

As for what we wore, we thought it would be cute (?) to dress casual and wear flannel button downs and khaki pants with brown leather Wallabees. We weren’t matching exactly, but it was close enough. When we look back at photos, we see now that we kind of looked sloppy and a little too casual? We wish we could blame it on the fact that we were just young (24 & 29), but even that isn’t a realistic/valid excuse.Why didn’t we at least wear some nice white button downs and ties? Why didn’t we at least tuck our shirts in? Why didn’t anyone stop us?

We’re planning a five year party to renew our vows and have an actual celebration with more than 10 people (out on our land!) next year, so we’ll be able to see what it’s like to have an actual wedding. We plan to get all dressed up, have music playing out of more than just an iPhone, and there will most definitely be cake.

In the grand scheme of things, the flannels were ugly, but they have never changed our perception of that chilly day in October and what it will always mean to us. We aren’t fancy people, and we don’t need a lot in life to make us happy. An old house, a few animals, and spending time with the people we love the most. And that’s exactly what that day entailed.