A Gay Love Success Story

Yesterday we received a message from a sweet reader named Derek who shared a very touching story with us:

“Hey Guys! I wanted to share with you this gay love success story. I’m sure you don’t recall but you made a significant impact on mine and Nick’s (now my husband!) relationship 4 years ago. We had broken up and Nick reached out to you 2 looking for some guidance. You said that sometimes all we need is space to put things into perspective and you shared some of the struggles you 2 endured throughout your relationship—it was profoundly helpful for him and myself so thank you again! Well this was us on 11.13.21 in our matching custom-made tuxes and Pride Chucks making it official! Just wanted to share and let you know that you sharing your life and love helped us grow too. We so appreciate it. Love wins always! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤”

I share it for no other reason than to hopefully inspire people that are going through a similarly hard time to know that it won’t always be this way. Sometimes a little space is all you need to realize how much you truly mean to one another. I know it sounds cliche, but it worked wonders for us and it confirmed we 100% didn’t want to live without each other for one more day.

We feel honored to be even a small part of Derek and Nick’s beautiful story, and wish them many more years of love and happiness and all the ups and downs that come with sharing a life with someone.

Congratulations to the grooms!!! xo

Would You Correct Someone if They Misgendered Your Spouse?

“Sure, think it over with your wife and give me a call back to let me know and we’ll go from there!”

These were the words said to me on the phone from the pest control guy who was giving me a quote to spray our yard for mosquitos a few months back. My mind immediately wandered to: do I correct him and let him know that I in fact have a husband (not a wife) or do I brush it off?

99% of the time I will kindly and nonchalantly inform them that I have a husband, because I think visibility is important and it’s good for people to meet an out, married gay couple (especially in the south), and to not make a big deal about it (because it’s not a big deal!), but this time I let it slide. He was talking a mile a minute and I had already made up my mind that we wouldn’t be using this company for pest control anyway (for reasons unrelated to the misgendering), so I wanted to do whatever I could to thank him for his service and then get off the phone. So that’s what I did.

But I’m curious: what would you do? Would you correct them or let it slide? How have you handled situations like that in the past?

Do You Agree with Your Spouse Politically?

Is that too personal to ask?

I feel like it didn’t used to be. Or maybe it did? Regardless, a conversation we were having with our neighbor the other day got me thinking.

We were discussing the election (which is a recurring topic almost every day lately- only 8 more days!) with her and she mentioned how her partner’s political views are completely different than hers: she is liberal and he is more conservative. For some reason, during this entire election and the months leading up to it, the thought of potentially disagreeing with my significant other, on top of having to deal with everything else that’s currently going on in the world, seems like the last thing I would need on my plate.

Obviously, everyone is different and you just roll with the punches. PJ and I are fortunate that we 100% agree with each other politically (Biden/Harris 2020!). Though, this is not a given- the two of us have completely different personalities and disagree on so many things. Daily. But thankfully, this is one thing we don’t have to worry about butting heads on. We have only started taking a serious interest in politics in the last few years, so it’s kind of a journey we’ve experienced together, deciding and solidifying what our beliefs and morals are, and who we ultimately want to vote for.

So, if it isn’t too personal, and if you’re up for it, I’m so curious: do you and your significant other agree with each other’s political views? Or do you have completely different beliefs? I’d love to hear!

PS: VOTE VOTE VOTE

Our 5 Year Wedding Anniversary

First off, thank you all SO much for the sweet anniversary wishes you sent our way across our different socials. We felt all the love and then some!

We spent our 5 year wedding anniversary (and 10 years of being together) on October 17th, at home with our kiddos. We had plans to camp at the land with family and plan this whole big thing, but we mutually agreed we just didn’t have the stamina this year. In truth, all we really wanted to do was to relax at home without having the pressure (and work) to plan something bigger. So we made chili and my mom stopped by along with my younger sister and her girlfriend. We drank wine and laughed. It was so nice and exactly what we needed in this season of life.

Sometimes things don’t work out the way you wanted them to, and as we get older, we’re finding (for better or worse) that’s exactly what life is all about. It’s about rolling with the punches and doing what you can to make the best out of it.

Here’s to the next 5 years!!!! xoxo

PS: our 2nd anniversary and our 3rd (I guess I forgot to write about our 4th?)

Do You (or Your Significant Other) Snore?

The other morning when we were still in bed and had just woken up, PJ played a video (but didn’t show me what it was) of the most awful, terrible sound. It was of someone snoring in their sleep and it sounded like a slow, grumbly freight train that was about to be derailed. It hurt my ears.

As it turns out, the person snoring was me. I couldn’t believe it. I think I denied it for 5 minutes straight, but he assured me it was, in fact, me. He’s told me for the past 2 or 3 years that I snore, but he’s never captured it on camera before, so maybe a small part of me didn’t believe him (or didn’t want to). Now that I know, I’m on the search for ways to eliminate my snoring before it becomes unbearable. Or maybe it already has. I woke up to an empty bed a few months ago because PJ had to go sleep on the couch in the middle of the night because my snoring kept WAKING HIM UP. Isn’t that awful?

I’ll keep you updated if I find anything useful! In the meantime, I’m so curious: do you or your significant other snore, too?

Thank You For Being You

I love you. I understand you, every part of you because you're so easy to understand but more complicated than anyone I've ever met and I like it that way to be honest because you keep me guessing and wondering how I made it so long without you and as I'm sitting here writing this and it's one in the morning and you're passed out beside me, I'm wishing I'd known you forever but in a way I feel like I have because it's hard to remember my life before you but I know what my life is now with you and the impact you've had on it and how even after all this time I'm still in awe of your hard work and your determination and your humor and the voices you make that get me every time and your muscles and your smile and how you always seem to be able to fix everything and no one will ever love you as much as I love you, but that's not to say you're not lovable- you're the most lovable actually, it's just I can't properly express my feelings for you with these words because they won't fit or maybe they haven't been invented yet, but all I know is that even if we never buy another house or you lose all of your muscles and the voices stop or maybe one day you aren't able to fix something, I will always always ALWAYS find a reason to celebrate you because of all of the above and more. Thank you for being you.